A survey found that 2.2% of married people reported having had more than one partner during a year. In general, researchers say, between 15-25% of married Germans have affairs, and men cheat more often than women do. And the question arises why husbands who cheat don't want to get divorced, but continue to cheat anyway.
We at Soulmates prefer to be objective on this topic and have found 8 reasons why husbands don't want to leave their wives forever.
1. His home is still the best place in his opinion.
He has known you forever, you cook for him, and you take care of the kids. He feels comfortable in his life and is looking for an affair because he wants to try something new, not necessarily because he wants to change his life. The home for a husband like this is a castle.
There is no question in his mind if he should leave. He doesn't want to, because without his wife it would be difficult for him to manage the house. Maybe there is no more love or passion, but there is friendship and respect. He just wants a comfort zone where he can take the best nap possible.
2. He is just looking for a "break".
A CEO of a dating site for married people looking for affairs said in an interview that there are many of these cases when you have a good relationship with your partner. They are part of a good family group, both have responsibilities, but cheaters are not looking to break up in this case.
There is great love between partners, but having an affair is just a time for relaxation and adventure.
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3. Thought he could find the answer about living in an affair, but hasn't done so yet.
There is an interesting story about a husband who cheated on his wife. Yes, it was a total disaster. The woman went through the whole spectrum of feelings, but after some time she began to ask why. It didn't look like he wanted to leave his family.
The answer was simple. He didn't do it because there was something wrong with her or because she was a terrible wife. He did it because there was something wrong with him.
Some men think that if there is a new woman, something will change and they will be happy, but it doesn't happen. Although they love their wives, they may still have psychological problems.
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4. He actually loves his wife.
A woman shared her story about her affair with a married man. He was a gentleman and a nice family man. And the main thing was that he didn't want to leave his wife. Many of us may be wondering why he is acting this way.
Another guy could answer this question. He had been happily married for more than 20 years and had children. And yes, he loved his wife very much, but he had been cheating for more than 15 years. To him, it's just a "fetish". At the same time, he also feels guilty about it.
5. He did not have enough courage to change his life completely.
He has been living with his wife for 10 years and is a perfect husband and father, but suddenly he meets his soulmate. Therapist Douglas LaBier calls this a "mind-body" affair. This new feeling can be very strong and consume you from head to toe.
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In such cases, some men sometimes prefer to divorce and remarry, but others cannot. They still have a great connection with their wife.
6. He feels that there are strong ties, like children or a mortgage.
A lawyer who has dealt with many divorces shared her experience and said that it is very painful to separate, but it is especially painful to stop being a full-time parent. These things can keep many people from getting divorced, even if they are not happy together.
Maybe there is no love between the couple anymore, but the responsibility is still there, and these chains can be very strong.
7. He does not want to go through the pain of divorce.
The word "divorce" evokes millions of bad emotions and associations. It involves dealing with lawyers, disputes, property division, and negotiating time management for children.
Some men may prefer to leave things as they are, just so they don't have to go through the tears, anger and crying that comes with the experience. Even if there is no longer a healthy relationship, it is just easier to find an affair.
Also, he doesn't want to stress his children and his wife out.
8. He realized he had made a mistake by having an affair.
A man told that he cheated on his wife with her close friend. He was fully aware that it was a terrible mistake, but now he suffers from it. The man doesn't know what to do or whether to tell his wife about it.
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Of course, there are many opinions about whether or not he should confess, but even if she found out, he doesn't want to break up with her because he still loves her.
Would you prefer to divorce or forgive your partner if you found out he was having an affair? Do you think it is possible to love several people at the same time? Please, share your stories below!